How to enable remote access to your mysql database (debian)

1) nano /etc/mysql/my.cnf
2) find

[mysqld]
user = mysql
pid-file = /var/run/mysqld/mysqld.pid
socket = /var/run/mysqld/mysqld.sock
port = 3306
basedir = /usr
datadir = /var/lib/mysql
tmpdir = /tmp
language = /usr/share/mysql/English
bind-address = 65.55.55.2

3) the bind address will initially say localhost... change it to be your ipaddress of the server.
4) /etc/init.d/mysql restart
5) modify the permissions in mysql to allow remote users to log in.

thats it your done.